One reason is because "you had a difficult delivery. Instead of focusing on the new baby, [the mothers] get stuck feeling sorry for themselves...feel guilty, especially if the baby had a problem-and they feel helpless." Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg with Melinda Blau
This is so true for me. With my daughter getting stuck in the birth canal and needing an emergency c-section, then developing an infection with severe jaundice and swelling of the head from the vacuum tries, she had to be in the NICU for 6 days. I feel so 'guilty' whenever I hear her cry, so I always rush right in to stop it. With all she went through, I feel terrible that when she does cry, I want to make her feel better, because I can control that. I couldn't control my delivery. This was an eye-opener when I read it. But the delivery wasn't my fault. She is okay now. No problems from the delivery and I need to remember she won't remember what happened.
But what do you say?